Important note: You can gauge that far more accurately from what she does than from what she says
I‘m currently going out a girl who’s very nice, easy to talk to, and enjoyable to be around. For the most part we have similar hashkafos, with one big difference.
I grew up in a very open home with tons of guests, lots of kiruv, random people around our Shabbos table, etc. My parents are both heavily involved in all sorts of klal work and volunteer a lot of their time.
The girl I’m dating feels strongly that a Shabbos table is a place of refuge for the family. She believes that you should focus on your family and fit in chesed if you can, but your life shouldn’t revolve around it. She’s somewhat quiet and reserved, so I don’t know how much of this is a shitah and how much is her personality.
We were told she’s a loyal friend, and it seems she expresses her ruchniyus in other ways, like regularly going to shiurim, etc., but I’m wondering if this is just too big a gap to cross. You always refer to being hashkafically compatible ® does this qualify as incompatibility? Basically, is this a deal breaker?
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