For dating to be productive, it has to have direction
I just finished my fourth date with a great girl and I’m wondering if I’m doing something wrong, because everyone warned me that dating would be so stressful, but I’m actually really enjoying it. Which leads me to my question. I enjoy this girl’s company, we have a lot of fun on our dates, and I find her personality attractive. But after four dates I have no idea whether she would make a good wife. What should I be looking for? And do I have to steer the conversation or can I just go with the flow and see what happens?
IT does my heart good to hear there are people out there who aren’t suffering through the dating process. What a brachah! With that, it’s entirely possible that you have not yet reached the decision-making part, which is where the stress often lies.
In order to answer your question, I’d like to share the wisdom of Mrs. Rochel Goldbaum who founded the Directed Dating approach. As per the title, it’s clear that, yes, you will have to direct the conversation, but you’ll have to do it wisely, as you don’t want to risk losing the gift you already have.
Let me back up. For dating to be productive, it has to have direction. Each date should have purpose and hopefully build on whatever progress has been made to date (pun intended). While the initial dates are intended to gauge your perfunctory interest in the person, subsequent dates are supposed to help you determine your interest in this person as a potential spouse.
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