It turns out that many of these “rules,” all of which are true, sometimes contradict each other
I’ve been dating for a long time and I’m noticing that the thing I end up breaking up over is the thing I didn’t like on the first date. Everyone tells me that I can’t say no after a single date; relationships take time, and I shouldn’t make snap judgments. So I turn myself into a pretzel to convince myself that I’m okay with whatever is bothering me, but in the end, that’s the eventual deal breaker. If I already have an intuition about something in the beginning, can’t I just trust myself?
mazing question!
Sometimes I think doing the right thing isn’t so hard. What’s hard is knowing what the right thing is. Your question has a similar flavor. As you mentioned, when you’re dating, many pithy cliches and truisms get thrown at you: “Trust your gut.” “Things take time.” And my favorite one, which I’ve been throwing around a lot lately: “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” (Maya Angelou)
Here’s the thing: They’re all true!
You listen to all the podcasts and speak to all the mentors so you’ll know the “right” thing to do. But then it turns out that many of these “rules,” all of which are true, sometimes contradict each other.
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