Actually, we do know why kids go off the derech
I read the Guestlines article “Not a Hefker Velt” (Issue 644) and frankly I am angry. I’m angry on behalf of all the parents who were yet again shamed and embarrassed. I’m angry knowing that due to the incorrect thinking and conclusions being presented in this article countless more children will be further hurt. When will it stop?
Let me explain. The article makes the same two mistakes made by so many speakers and writers on the subject of chinuch habanim.
Firstly virtually all of them fail to distinguish between the time-honored values and hashkafos handed down through the mesoras haTorah concerning traditional chinuch habanim and the rules and guidelines needed for what I call “crisis chinuch.”
Essentially everything asserted in the article is correct when applied to standard chinuch habanim and in my experience is universally agreed upon by virtually all young parents as vital to their children’s development. Crisis chinuch however demands a different approach. Crisis chinuch is the method of chinuch needed when traditional chinuch methodology will no longer effectively reach the child.
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