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Dear Amateur Shadchan,
I read your letter about how hard it is to be “ghosted” after suggesting a shidduch. Thank you so much for doing your best to help young people find their bashert! It’s most appreciated by Klal Yisrael at large and by the singles you help.
Let me share with you an experience I had a good few years ago. I was in shidduchim back then, and I wasn’t a newly graduated 19-year-old, so I was getting calls from shadchanim myself. And while I was extremely flexible with many important things, there were two or three nonnegotiables.
There was one shadchan who kept calling me with suggestions that meant compromising on all of those things. And as many times as I pointed that out to her, very respectfully, she kept at it. It came to a point where I asked her to stop suggesting shidduchim, and still she called me with such ideas. I stopped answering her calls since it was hurting me too much.
I’m sure this isn’t the case with most shadchanim, but that was why I ghosted a shadchan.
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