LONG READS Issue 662 · May 28, 2017

Reacting to Verbal Abuse: Response in Kind or Kind Response?

In addition to the Torah prohibition against verbal abuse of one’s fellow Jews there are specific commandments prohibiting verbal mistreatment of a convert. An exploration of the parameters of these halachos.

Reacting    to    Verbal    Abuse:    Response    in    Kind    or    Kind    Response?
In addition to the Torah prohibition against verbal abuse of one’s fellow Jews there are specific commandments prohibiting verbal mistreatment of a convert. An exploration of the parameters of these halachos

In the following pages we will explore how the Torah addresses treatment of the convert by other Jews. We begin with a discussion of the general obligations that exist regarding treatment of all Jews before turning to the specific halachos governing treatment of converts.

 

The Gravity of Verbal Abuse

The Torah (Vayikra 25:17) commands us not to cause distress to another person with our words. This prohibition encompasses a very wide range of verbal harassment since as the Sefer Hachinuch (mitzvah 338) writes “It is impossible to write every detail that can cause a person to feel hurt.” The Chinuch also explains that this prohibition applies even when the words used are not openly offensive but only hint to a meaning intended to cause emotional pain.

He warns that although transgression of this commandment is not punishable by lashes “there are many lashes without the strap that are available in the hands of Hashem.” The reason given by the Chinuch for why one who violates this prohibition is not punished with lashes is that in general lashes can only be administered for sins committed through action and although words can be very hurtful speech is not considered action and thus this sin is not punishable by a human court.

In contrast to the explanation of the Chinuch the Chofetz Chaim (Introduction #17) writes that a person violating this prohibition is not punished with lashes because there are no lashes for violating a lav shebichlolos i.e. a general negative commandment that includes multiple prohibitions. Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach (Minchas Shlomo 1:81) wonders where the Chofetz Chaim found a source for categorizing this prohibition as a lav shebichlolos.

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