“The article ‘Out of Control’ blew me away, as it’s my story, too. Just on the receiving end. From my spouse”
Dear Been There,
You wondered what it must feel like to be a younger sibling who got married before your older sibling.
I’ll tell you: It’s deeply painful, but something hidden far under the surface, covered up by our busy lives.
When I have a quiet moment to contemplate, I cry rivers of tears for my sibling left behind. As I put my three children to sleep, I cry for the ten years that have passed, ten years of waiting, of being “skipped” again and again.
To my older sister: You haven’t told us what it feels like to be you. You show up to simchahs with a genuine smile, showing such happiness for your siblings it seems you don’t even have the question, “Why my brother and not me?”
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