As parents, we are role models. If we feed these kids a glutton of materialism before and during the wedding, won’t most kids expect it after the wedding?
At the end of the day, what messages are you giving your children?
My family davens at the same shuls you do, and we send our children to the same schools you do. Our rabbis constantly teach us about mesirus nefesh that the “alte heim” had for Torah. As parents, we should show our kids that the choices made before the wedding need to parallel the choices that are made after the wedding. When “children” opt to live a kollel lifestyle, it’s a choice of abstinence, not excess—and making a low-key wedding is a good place to start this mentality.
As parents, we are role models. If we feed these kids a glutton of materialism before and during the wedding, won’t most kids expect it after the wedding?
Our couple is about to celebrate their third anniversary. With the money we saved on the wedding, we are watching their beautiful family grow in Torah and learning in Eretz Yisrael. Seriously, isn’t this all what we want for our children?
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