During the Yamin Noraim, we all yearn to change. But how many of us manage to implement changes that last until the next Rosh HaShanah? A solid approach for making lasting changes.
We all know that changing our attitudes feelings or behaviors is difficult. For instance if we tend to look critically at people and situations it seems to be extremely challenging to start finding the good in everything and everyone. Oh sure we might improve a tiny bit by taking the problem seriously enough — if we undergo psychotherapy attend shiurim and/or read seforim on the subject.
But even then the change might be superficial barely scratching the surface of our core negativity. Can we really bring about a major change in attitude through our own efforts? The question applies equally if not more so to our feelings and behaviors. What does it take to get a person to react differently to life situations? What if we are sensitive by nature? Should we expect ourselves to be able to change our nature to such an extent that hurtful remarks will no longer hurt us? What is realistic? What should we be aiming for?
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