Had the situation been reversed, I know that my husband z”l would’ve taken even better care of me than I did of him
Iran into a friend a few weeks ago and mentioned that I was writing a column on caregiving and grief for Family First.
She’s always curious about my writing projects, but this time she seemed more interested than usual. She asked about the topics I was covering and then volunteered a suggestion: doing a piece on men and caregiving.
It quickly became clear that it was particularly relevant to her. On a recent Shabbos, her mother-in-law, who’s in the early stages of dementia, had been visiting. My friend had been the one to take — or, more accurately, to have been given — the responsibility of caring for her. Her husband had spent the morning in shul, followed by an afternoon nap, and then proposed to attend a shiur while his wife continued to entertain his mother.
Before I go any further, let me make this clear: I know her husband, and he’s a loving and devoted son to his widowed mother.
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