“It is good for a man to carry a burden in his youth ” we are told in Eichah (3:27). Our Sages explain that this refers to taking a wife.
Do you know any wives who feel they are a burden? I sure don’t. And if their husbands perceive them that way what’s good about that?
This doesn’t only go one way. After Adam and Chavah ate from the forbidden tree in Gan Eden part of Chavah’s punishment was that her husband would rule over her (Bereishis 3:16). So she carries a burden as well.
Is this the Torah’s description of the great institution of marriage that every single dreams about? We try our best to help anyone not yet married to find their match. Are we really thinking Why should we be the only ones suffering? Let them all come join us?! I certainly hope not.
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