No Yom Tov is as rife with minhagim as Pesach, and many of us follow traditions passed down over centuries. But how does the Seder look in the homes of those who have rediscovered Torah? How does one create a mesorah when none exists?
Zalman holds tight to one minhag his secular father passed down. “My father made Kiddush every Friday night and he always stood throughout ” relates the sixty-year-old who’s become increasingly more observant over the last twenty years. “He wasn’t observant and he passed on little else in terms of mesorah but out of respect for my father I stand when I recite Kiddush.”
Pesach is Zalman’s favorite Yom Tov hands down inspired by his childhood experiences of driving to synagogue and “Sunday night treif Chinese food.”
“When I was young I looked forward to our family Pesach Sedarim with great anticipation. Although our family wasn’t frum my maternal grandfather was very committed to a beautiful Seder and it was the highlight of our year as a family. I sat next to my grandfather and across from my cousin and we would read the entire Haggadah in Hebrew while the rest of the family members read it in English.
“In Hebrew school every Tuesday afternoon from Purim to Pesach we learned the Pesach songs with our synagogue cantor a holocaust survivor with an operatic voice. Our Sedarim were a rousing affair lasting into the early morning hours. Grandma would make delicious hors d’oeuvres which we ate with relish so we weren’t hungry during the Seder. There was such ruach it made a real impression on me and till this day I hear my grandfather’s tunes echoing in my ears.”
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