Your spouse-to-be was attracted to particular qualities. Let him enjoy them now too
No one has to tell young people how to attract a mate — that knowledge comes “instinctively” implanted by Hashem.
Girls know that they should makes themselves as attractive as possible. Boys know that they have to highlight their “power traits” — characteristics that help set them apart from the pack and accentuate their ability to position their family within the community. Power traits for a young man include many different selling points such as his status in the yeshiva (i.e. top boy) his yiras Shamayim his status in the community (i.e. chashuveh family) his wealth intellect inclination toward chesed and other qualities and characteristics. Rather than his looks the boy’s power traits tend to make him most attractive to a young lady.
What You See is Not What You Get
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