D ear Future Mechuteneste
You’ve told me several times about your son Yehoshua who’s no longer religious. Each time you emphasize how wonderful he is in the mitzvah of kibbud horim and how often he contacts you.
I assume you want to make sure that we know about Yehoshua. Maybe you fear that if we didn’t know about him and were to hear in the future we might want to break off the shidduch between your son and our daughter.
Be assured we won’t. We’ve always considered each person suggested for our children as an individual. Each shidduch that was suggested for any of our children was of course investigated. But unlike many people today we don’t care what color tablecloth you use what shoes your son wears or whether your married daughters wear long or short sheitels. We feel that each person is an individual and at some point has to take responsibility for his or her own behavior.
We’re looking for a husband for our daughter not a perfect chavrusa not a mashgiach not someone for her to show off to her school friends. We were always looking for a mensch with good middos who enjoys his learning and takes it seriously whether full- or part-time who is kind and considerate and who shows that he cares for our daughter.
