"I wish we did not write off people with mental illness to the extent that I cannot possibly sign my name here"
I felt like standing up and applauding after reading Avigail Stern’s incredible article about her years in shidduchim. Perfect.
Single women are subjected to so much undeserved scrutiny and are given so little of the respect and admiration they truly deserve. We all keep hearing that “even the most successful process doesn’t guarantee an anticipated outcome,” that outcome is in the hands of the One Above, yet somehow we still judge the dating process of so many because they’re still not at the finish line.
So many amazing singles are doing everything right, in spite of no end result to prove it. And in addition to all the stress they have to navigate, many have built impressive careers and maintain strong family ties and do phenomenal spiritual work… all while trying to make the best of an impossibly difficult situation that’s beyond their control. They are models of strength and stamina and are an inspiration to us all in getting through a stage of life they didn’t want to go through with their heads held high. They deserve no shame or unsolicited advice; they deserve our utmost admiration and support. They also deserve to be seen and involved as important members of our communities with the tremendous wisdom, abilities, resources, and talents they have to offer.
Kol hakavod to you, Avigail, for giving a voice to the brave women who really shine.
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