“I’m not sure how long it’s been since you were in shidduchim, but boys (or their mothers) won’t even give an overweight girl a chance”
Dear Happily Mismatched,
Your letter about how you’re fuller and your husband is thinner, but he appreciated your looks as opposed to appreciating you despite your looks, really touched me as an overweight girl in shidduchim. So firstly, thank you. It gives me so much hope.
I’m not sure how long it’s been since you were in shidduchim, but boys (or their mothers) won’t even give an overweight girl a chance. There were times when we checked out a boy first and asked a shadchan to redt it and the first question the shadchan asked was: What is her size? When they heard I wasn’t thin, they refused to even suggest it because they knew the boy’s side would never give a yes.
I wish and daven that they would just give me a chance, but sadly they won’t. (I’ve had one date in the past two and a half years).
Thank you for raising the awareness that boys can be happy even if the girl doesn’t fit into the “societal beauty” standards. Maybe even one mother/boy out there will now give someone a chance!
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