His Sisters Are Lax… Does That Matter?

I’m your typical Bais Yaakov graduate from a regular mainstream family. I’m not sure whether “struggle” is an accurate word to describe my relationship with tzniyus, because I’ve always persevered. It probably would be more on target to say that laxity in tzniyus is a real yetzer hara for me.

I’ve set certain gedarim for myself, like never walking out of the house with my legs uncovered, and although it’s been very tempting (for example, on vacation), I’ve maintained my standards.

So here’s my dilemma. I was just redt to a really suitable sounding boy who is very “normal,” has good, solid hashkafos, and seems to be on my level of frumkeit.

The problem is that his family is more lax in halachah than he is. When my parents looked into the family, they found out that most of his sisters are not makpid on covering their legs all the time and aren’t careful with other details as well.