In my years of advising couples how to effectively communicate criticism, I have developed four guidelines
Consider the case of Dov. A soft-spoken, successful sofer, Dov approached me one day after Minchah quite a few years ago.
“Could I please talk with you for a minute… privately?” Dov meekly asked.
I stepped out into the hall with Dov to hear what he had to say.
“I know you speak publicly, at times, on shalom bayis,” Dov began. “I would like to tell you my story so that you can share it with others, without my name, of course. It is painful for me to tell you about this now. But if it will help one other couple, it will be worth my discomfort.
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