"The idea that boys are inherently too immature to get married a year earlier is ridiculous"
The idea that boys are inherently too immature to get married a year earlier is ridiculous. Everyone matures when life demands it of them. As long as a person remains in dependent mode there is little need for them to grow up. If bochurim would know they’ll soon be in shidduchim, or once some of their friends get engaged, they will mature earlier.
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The letter “Raise the Bar for Boys” brought up very important issues regarding our boys’ responsibilities or lack thereof. In that light, reflecting back on the bein hazmanim we just spent with our boys, home from mainstream, high-level yeshivos, we’d like to offer another perspective.
Their various yeshivos gave over a very important message, some explicitly and some implicitly, and the boys internalized it. While they had time to have fun and get together with family and friends, they also happily provided real help at home, both before and during Yom Tov, got to minyanim on time, and made serious time for learning.
Thank you, and ashreichem, to the yeshivos that conveyed these important lessons.
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