"Instead of suggesting how to avoid getting thrown off planes, why not stress that flying is a great opportunity to follow the rules, be kind and courteous, and make a kiddush Hashem?"
In a follow-up letter on the subject of supporting children in kollel, R.H. concedes that she has no experience with in-law relationships. Why, then, are her opinions worthy of discussion?
R.H. accuses the kollel couple in the Double Take story of “bad middos” and “a sense of entitlement” and posits that no couple should be in kollel if there is any disagreement between the two sets of in-laws.
A simple reading of the story shows that both sets of parents love exactly what they have — a son and daughter learning in kollel — and want exactly the same for all of their children. The kollel couple themselves are two great kids, working very hard under trying conditions with no claims against their parents at all.
There are many ways you can help your children even if you can’t help them financially in a big way. When your daughter gives birth, load her freezer with home-made dinners. When you are in her home, roll up your sleeves and help out. Buy clothing for her children. Cook, bake and buy the food and paper goods for every kiddush and bris. When they come to visit or go to a family simchah, slip them a $100 bill to cover their gas and tolls. More than the money, a kollel couple needs their parents’ moral support and encouragement.
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