Part VI,As kids, there are things we need and want, and we’re basically dependent on our parents for those things. How best to communicate these needs?,Real Time Communication: Mesila, Part VI,As kids, there are things we need and want, and we’re basically dependent on our parents for those things. How best to communicate these needs?
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Properly communicating our needs is an important tool for life and necessary for financial stability as well. As kids there are things we need stuff we want and we are to a large degree dependent on our parents to provide those things. What is the best way to communicate these needs? How do we address our parents in a respectful way? Talk over differences and negotiate without losing our cool? Smoothly resolve compromises and gracefully accept a no? This week four families of teens together with their parents stepped up to the plate to candidly reveal the tricks of the communication trade. Read on as Mesila and Mishpacha take you for another ride toward financial health and responsibility.
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“It’s important for a child to approach a parent with the mindset that there are many factors which play a role in decision making” says Mrs. Goldberg. “Think of all the family’s needs as a stack of cards. Parents are faced with the task of shuffling the deck and prioritizing what’s most important. Also when you approach a parent for something try to be reasonable. Choose your battles. Kids who are always making unreasonable demands can put their parents into a ‘no mode’ and are less likely to get what they want.”
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“I agree” says Chedvah Goldberg 16 “that if you want something and you think the answer will be a real non-negotiable no then there’s really no point in asking. But I actually do approach my mother even if the answer is a likely no ” she admits smiling. “It’s important to me that my mother at least know how badly I really want something. And sometimes with a little discussion negotiation and compromise we both end up coming out of the conversation as winners.”
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