Same Direction,You’ve changed your life around, transformed your inner self, and have embarked on the road to a mainstream Torah life. But who will understand you on the other side of the divide? Will those who have been religious all their lives even begin to relate? A community shul in Los Angeles carries baalei teshuvah to the next level, while keeping them on familiar territory.
The food is different. The clothing is hot. And no one gets your jokes. It’s the no-man’s-land between a secular lifestyle and full integration into a religious one. Even if you’re happy to have left your old life behind it takes time to fully grasp the mores of your new environment. Even worse if you don’t find people you can relate to the loneliness and alienation may lead you to give up and just go back where you came from.
Rabbi Avraham Yechiel Hirschman head of the Pico Bais Medrash in the Pico-Robertson area of Los Angeles is deeply concerned by the fact that so many baalei teshuvah actually drop out after several years of being frum. “I would say between 20 and 40 percent of baalei teshuvah have thoughts of regressing to their old lifestyles” he says.
Years ago says Rabbi Hirschman the teshuvah process was more drawn out. Today young people are shuttled along the kiruv track at dizzying speeds.
“Kiruv rabbis send people off to Eretz Yisrael to learn after six months where they stay for a year or so and then they return and get married” he says. “Within two years they’ve transformed their lives gotten married and had children.”
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