I became frum when I was 15 and my husband was raised frum but not as yeshivish as our kids. We’re thrilled that our children found their path in avodas Hashem even though it’s much more yeshivish than ours. We support their decisions. But we don’t support “support.”
We believe that if you’re old enough to get married you’re old enough to figure out your finances. My husband and I have been working since we were 12. We put money in savings and have never received handouts from our parents.
I’m told this world no longer exists but I have a hard time selling my son “to the highest bidder.” I want him to find a girl who is his soul mate — poor rich baggage or otherwise.
My daughter also wants to marry a long-term learner and I’m told it’s up to us to make that happen. I get it; this is “how it’s done.”
