Find a way to involve your children in something that you’d ordinarily attempt to get done alone
What this means
When things get hectic — whether it’s because it’s Erev Yom Tov, there’s a new baby in the family, or it’s just the regular everyday chaos — I’ve fallen into the trap of viewing my children as a barrier to getting things done.
When this happens, it’s almost as if they’re flies being shooed away, my vision blurred by my desire to meet the needs of my family, but forgetting that their deepest needs actually lie in the process, in the “becoming.”
I’ve made a point of trying my hardest to include my children in the chaos, to do things because of their presence, and alongside them, rather than manage despite them.
Find a way to involve your children in something that you’d ordinarily attempt to get done alone. Look for opportunities to reframe their presence amidst the mayhem, transforming it from blockage to asset. Take a picture when it happens.
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