Insights into how we can happily follow our husband without losing ourselves
It was time to choose a school for her oldest daughter — no easy feat in a city with 40-odd schools, mostly too full to grant you an interview — and she and her husband didn’t agree on the choice. She had some very serious reservations about the school he wanted to apply to.
“I was listening to Rebbetzin Goldberg,*” she confided, “and she said that an ishah kesheirah doesn’t just go along with what her husband wants — she actively supports it.”
Was she wrong to voice her concerns?
The international bestseller The Surrendered Wife, principles of which have been adopted and adapted by numerous frum teachers, encourages women to say, “Whatever you think,” to all their husbands’ suggestions, no matter how harebrained.
Is the role of a Jewish wife to be a yes-man (woman?), agreeing to anything her husband proposes? (A casual reading of carefully cherry-picked maamarei Chazal could definitely leave someone with that impression.) Or is she meant to be an equal partner in running the home and rearing the children?
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