Too Picky?

I’Mwell aware of the argument that singles are too picky. In my years as a dating coach I have met and helped hundreds of singles, young and old, male and female, looking for a first spouse or trying marriage again. Yes, from the outside it may seem they are too picky. But as someone who’s working from the inside, I can say that this isn’t generally the case.

Allow me to share with you three possible alternative explanations for why a single might be viewed as “picky.”

Firstly, when a single lacks social confidence, what his or her friends might think or say about their potential spouse becomes a high priority. When a single says, “No, he’s too short,” what she really might be saying is, “No, my friends will wonder why I married such a short boy.”

This nuanced distinction can make all the difference in helping to guide a single through his or her decision process. It will take time to help a single get past this hesitation but, so long as your focus remains directed at the root of the problem, you’ll eventually get there.