“Chava Glick is to be commended for her courage in taking us on her journey with infertility”
Gitty Chopp dislikes the fact that résumés are used for shidduchim; she’d prefer sending out a book about her life. We’ve married off six sons, each of whom was presented with in excess of 400 résumés. While Ms. Chopp does her best to denigrate the process, I don’t think she gets it. Each résumé presented takes many hours to research — or no research at all. What do I mean? If Ms. Chopp is 4-foot-11 and ¾ and my son is 6-foot-1, he, and consequently, his mother who is doing the research, may not be interested in her “deep-seated passion for Torah” or “her dreams of being a fifth-grade teacher.” If my son is 22 and Ms. Chopp is 27, he may not be interested in the fact that she “runs two miles twice a week.” My wife and I have successfully redt 25 shidduchim, starting when we were both single. Our experience is that you can only match people on paper. Personalities and passions must wait for the date! I hope Ms. Chopp finds her zivug soon. Since she’s also a computer programmer, she must know how to delete the folder containing her shidduch résumé.
Dovid Green
I want to applaud the “motherless mother” who wrote the letter about having awareness that women out there don’t always have family support after birth, and the reality of how difficult it is to find a substitute for that.
As another “motherless mother,” I clearly remember after my very first birth wondering about normal things, and just needing a shoulder to cry on that my body was not the same as it had been before. Instead I was alone, dealing with the shame, wondering if I was normal and what was normal, and wondering how the stigma would follow me if I chose to see a therapist to discuss something that most women just casually ask their mothers after birth.
I don’t have the solution, but am just bringing more awareness that this is an issue, and that women should feel comfortable seeking the emotional support they need post-birth (yes, way before the emotional breakdown happens) without fearing that they will be seen as “less than.”
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