In some frum circles, it’s common practice for teenage granddaughters to take turns sleeping at their elderly Bubby’s house. But how do you decide which girl?

STRONG BONDS When the situation allows for it nothing compares to family support for an elderly grandparent who lives alone. And the grandchildren also gain from the arrangement: They strengthen their place in the family unit acquire caregiving skills and develop the ability to deal with difficult situations. There are however some ground rules to make sure the arrangement is a good fit
“Hi Bubby! It’s so nice to see you!” A burst of life fills the house dispelling the loneliness that had begun to creep in. “My teacher said something that reminded me of our conversation last night — I have to tell you about it. Oh I also brought pictures of little Dovi. Can you believe he’s already walking?!”
When the situation allows for it nothing compares to family support for an elderly grandparent who lives alone. And the grandchildren also gain from the arrangement: They strengthen their place in the family unit acquire caregiving skills and develop the ability to deal with difficult situations. Above and beyond the quality time grandmother and granddaughter spend together can lead to a powerful bond.
There are however some ground rules to make sure the arrangement is a good fit — for both the grandparent and grandchild. Join us for a roundtable discussion with three women — Rena Zenro (an educational consultant) Orli Cohen (a social worker in the Department of Social Services in Rechasim Israel) and Gitta Katzberg (who used to sleep at her grandmother on a rotational basis and is currently the daughter of an elderly mother who regularly sends her daughters to help out).
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