I f her e-mails weren’t enough to make me tear my hair out Susanna had to actually call me so I had to sound polite and professional over the phone — not rewrite my responses five times because I was having a hard time editing out the words Make up your mind and stop driving me insane. Maybe I could avoid her call like I did the PTA lady who wanted me to donate something for the Chinese auction — don’t know what I’m doing about that. I answered Susanna’s call the ring before it went to voice mail.

“Hello?”

“Oh Abby thank G-d you answered ” Susanna rushed. “I don’t know what I would have done if you hadn’t — what a mess.”

What was going on? Was there a miscommunication in the e-mails? It wasn’t like I had started working on the ring: We hadn’t yet finalized the design.

“I was looking at the design and I realized — I’ve been tweaking and tweaking and tweaking so much that I’ve lost all focus.”