WELLBEING → WORDS UNSPOKEN Issue 1048 · February 5, 2025

Dear Potential Mother-in-Law

So how do I know what type of girl you are? you may ask. Well, that’s where my résumé comes into play

Dear Potential Mother-in-Law
Dear Potential Mother-in-Law,

AS you will notice, my shidduch résumé doesn’t come with a picture, and I’d like to explain why.

When I came back from seminary four years ago, I felt very strongly that it was inappropriate for me to send out a picture. I’d just come back from an amazing year in Eretz Yisrael, where I’d gained a special sensitivity toward tzniyus. Sending out a picture would go against that.

Now, four years later, I’m constantly told by shadchanim and friends to just send out a picture. Shadchanim have not only asked for a picture of my face, but a full-body picture!

I’ve been told that mothers of boys won’t even look into me if I don’t send one.

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