The premarriage planning session was just coming to an end. I’d gone over all of the steps of the wedding with the couple and the only point left to discuss was who would be walking the chassan and kallah to the chuppah.
There are various minhagim regarding who escorts the chassan and kallah to the chuppah. Some communities have the two mothers escort the kallah and the two fathers escorting the chassan. Other communities have the parents escorting their own child to the chuppah. Each minhag has its adherents and its sources.
The chassan says he’s sure his parents want to walk him down and we turned to the kallah for her approval. Chavaleh (name changed) in a very adamant voice totally out character for her said “I will not let my father walk me down to the chuppah.”
I was taken aback. I knew her parents had divorced when she was a little girl but I was totally unprepared for her insistence that her father not “walk her down.”
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