Advice Line

My daughter is unfortunately for her what’s termed “an older single ” in
her late twenties. She is happy at home and has a good job. However in keeping
with the attitudes of today we have never asked her for “board and lodgings”
despite the fact that she earns a good wage.

She does give us a lump sum twice a year but this doesn’t even begin to
cover her living expenses and as costs are rising I am finding myself
increasingly resentful of this. In addition we are working hard on finding a shidduch
and baruch Hashem there are constant suggestions but is she supposed to stay
at home forever? As she reaches her thirties should we be encouraging her to
buy an apartment locally and to move out?

I don’t chas v’shalom want to throw her out or give her the
message that she is unwanted because of course she is but surely she should
have some adult life of her own rather than be continually in the role of “daughter
at home”?

Your advice would be appreciated.

Rabbi Zecharya Greenwald has been involved in chinuch
for decades. He is the principal of Me’ohr Bais Yaakov seminary and the author
of Preparing your Child for Success (ArtScroll).