It was very early on in my rabbanus when I learned that “not all that glitters is gold.” Too often those families who at first glance would be perfect to adorn the cover of Mishpacha were in reality the most dysfunctional.
When I first began dealing with shalom bayis issues I still believed with a sense of na?vet? that all marriages are salvageable and blissfulness could always be restored.
Goldy and Laibel (names changed) were the first (but unfortunately not the last) couple who rid me of my innocence and propelled me into reality.
Goldy and Laibel were married for 17 years. They had four children yet they never had one day of true serenity in their marriage.
