Building Bridges

A new year full of promise for fresh beginnings has just peeked its rays over the horizon. But change is hard. Unhealthy thought patterns habits surroundings and relationships are like harmful weeds which can get in the way of a fresh start. Changing these patterns and building new bridges is not simple.

How can we learn to identify behavior that’s inhibiting our growth? How do we break away from negative thoughts and behavior patterns? Here are some tips and inspiring true stories from individuals just like you who found the strength and the means to break away from bad habits and grow.

Identify the Negative Behavior

“One of the first steps is learning to recognize why a specific set of thoughts behaviors or habits is not good for you ” says psychotherapist Lena Shore Coordinator of The Place The Jerusalem Center for Emotional Well-Being. In one example Shaindy Tober* first had to recognize what was unhealthy about her relationship with a mentor before she could take appropriate action. “I knew that something was ‘off’ when she started pushing my personal boundaries in a way that made me feel uncomfortable ” says Shaindy. “Once I identified those negative feelings I was able to contact a rav who helped me take the steps to separate myself from the relationship. In my personal situation writing a powerful letter to my former mentor helped to sever the ties.”

Children’s-book author Bracha Goetz began her life-changing transformation from a secular lifestyle toward Yiddishkeit as a teenager. She understood that some of her friends and family were discouraging her from reaching her goals. “I knew that I had to make a clean and dramatic break away from the relationships that were pulling me away from what my soul craved ” says Bracha.