Dear Kallah Teacher,
Mazel tov! It’s our fifth anniversary!
It’s been a while since we’ve been in touch, and I want to update you on my life. You taught me with such warmth, and gave over your lessons with love; you filled me with anticipation and excitement for my marriage. You taught me about the importance of being mevater and creating a home where my husband feels well taken care of.
During my engagement, when I called you with knots in my stomach and said, “I feel so, so nervous,” you replied, “Baruch Hashem! If you didn’t feel nervous, you wouldn’t be normal!” And so I quieted that voice inside me that was screaming for me to delve more carefully into my doubts and listened to the voice that told me I must have more bitachon.
As a young woman, I wasn’t in tune with my emotional needs; I didn’t understand what I’d need as a wife, or know what attributes would contribute to building a home where I’d feel loved and secure. I was calling out for help, but I was told I didn’t need any, that everything would be fine.
I approached you after our lessons, telling you I had a bad feeling about things. I shared some of my concerns, and you peacefully crossed each one off my list, assuring me that my concerns were normal. You told me that yes, we may experience clashes in our communication, but we will surely grow together, and you were confident in your ability to detect real issues.
