I don’t know how anyone could imply that not sleep training a baby means being derelict in your chinuch duties
After reading Sarah Chana Radcliffe’s response to the woman in shidduchim with a traumatic childhood who wanted to know if she had to go for therapy before marriage, and the Inbox letter, written by a woman who married a man who did not go for therapy before their marriage, urging her to do so, I have something to share. As someone who can identify with the young woman in shidduchim, I believe I have the right.
I too grew up in a home with many emotional issues that affected me badly, and I too have tried therapy time and again.
To the letter writer — although no one would want to put their spouse through what you went through, please understand that therapy is something that’s extremely painful, especially if you’re doing it while living with the situation that you’re trying to heal from. It can sometimes feel that not only is the therapy not accomplishing anything, but rather is causing more harm, since so much more hurt and pain are brought up.
I fully understand your position — going into marriage like this is really not an option. But sometimes the alternative — going for therapy beforehand — can cause even more harm.
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