I also hope my children realize my love for them even though I wasn’tperfect
I’m writing about the “Words Unspoken” where a therapist wrote a letter to her children about how hard she’s working to do right by them. I related to so much of what she wrote and I want to tell her thank you for her eloquent words.
In my professional life, I help women heal from childhoods where their mothers didn’t give them what they needed. I also support mothers with their parenting, so they give their kids more of what they need. And at home, I try my best to be the mother my kids need and worry when I can’t measure up!
Something I share with clients that I also try to internalize is the reality of the following dialectic: How I treat my children has an enormous impact on their well-being, and I’m a human who is by definition limited, and the outcome isn’t in my hands. I can try my best because that is my job, but how much I am capable of and how they “turn out” is really not up to me.
Hope this helps,
Tzipora Schiffer, LCSW
Monsey, NY
To the mother who wrote that letter to her children:
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