I ’ve been to a number of shadchanim and I feel that I’ve done my hishtadlus and that Hashem will take care of the rest. Yet it’s been a number of months since I met the first shadchan and I have not yet seen any results.
I understand that Hashem is the ultimate Shadchan yet those around me are pushing me to meet more shadchanim and my father reminds me “l’fum tza’ara agra — according to the effort is the reward.” This leaves me with two questions:
1) Is that true? That quote goes against everything I learned in school. Aren’t we supposed to do hishtadlus (which I did!) but allow Hashem to take care of the rest? Since I live out-of-town it’s not easy to just “meet shadchanim” — although I have flown in a few times to do so.
2) How can I keep my emunah strong when I’m not seeing any results?
