Don’t confuse outer trappings with inner connection. Don’t confuse your “you” with what you wear
Boro Park, in London, in Bnei Brak, everyone under a certain age is bouncing to the same song, a catchy dance number by singer Sruly Green. The chorus is a driving refrain: “I don’t need your beketshe, I don’t need your beketshe / The only thing I need is you.”
When I reached out to Reb Sruly, he explained his intended message: While he’s definitely not against traditional chassidish levush, he wants people to know that not dressing “right” shouldn’t hold anyone back from joining the tefillos, the tish, or the family simchah. No one should feel rejected from Yiddishkeit because he or she doesn’t look exactly like the crowd.
It’s a message that rings true with all of us: Don’t confuse outer trappings with inner connection. Don’t confuse your “you” with what you wear. Don’t overemphasize the uniform — be it a beketshe, a Borsalino, a Bais Yaakov dress code, a specific color (or lack of color) shirt — and forget that what Hashem really wants is a heart pulsing with emotion and commitment.
The message is clearly finding many receptive ears as “I don’t need your beketshe” pumps energetically at weddings, on the road, and in dorm rooms. And not just because of the driving rhythm and earworm tune. At the most basic level, the song is a contagious affirmation that it’s all good — He doesn’t really care what you wear, as long as your heart is in the right place. Which probably explains the coordinating “dance routine” featuring the novel move of casting off a beketshe in sync to the beat.
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