Where has all the fun gone?

While life definitely has its high points for the most part it consists of routines. Get up get the kids ready for school or camp make meals serve meals eat meals clean up after meals homework bedtime tasks and more tasks go to sleep start again tomorrow.

That’s boring to read let alone do. With the exception of the occasional crisis even our problems carry on in their repetitive ways: the decades-long worry about this particular child the 30-year squabble with one’s spouse the perpetual financial issues the ongoing weight or health issues the never-ending battle with our inner critic… On and on it goes.

Where has all the fun gone?

Missing the Boat

Of course if we do feel dissatisfied down or depressed we feel guilty about our poor attitude. After all we know that our lives are pure service of Hashem and this alone should infuse us with daily passion and joy — or so we believe. Feeling unhappy must reflect a personal failing a lack of gratitude for all that we have and a lack of appreciation for all that we are. If we were more elevated — so we think — then we would find deep pleasure in all the moments of our deeply meaningful lives.

We attempt to “fix” ourselves by attending more classes reading more books working harder on our spiritual outlook. When even these efforts fail to infuse us with happiness we feel even guiltier.