"Riding to the rescue of someone who doesn’t bother to do anything to rescue himself, we’re teaching our children every wrong lesson"
To the “older” single who’s happy with her life, thank you for your letter. It was so refreshing and validating to finally see someone admit this truth!
To be frank, I am so tired of people pitying me, tired of people talking down to me like I am uneducated, of people walking up to me and telling me they sympathize with me for my depression. (Of course this complete stranger is depressed — she’s single!)
I don’t know why, and I probably never will, but frum society seems to badly want singles to be sad and suffer from low self-esteem and shame. Why does everybody refuse to believe that we don’t hate ourselves? We refuse to admit that getting married before understanding what marriage is isn’t best for everyone — as Hashem clearly noticed.
It doesn’t help that frum publications are constantly feeding into this stereotype. I imagine because that makes for an interesting read on Shabbos afternoon, and provides lively conversation at the Shabbos table. Who wants to discuss the possibility that people without a husband may actually be mentally stable?
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