“It is important that a child knows it is normal and human to make mistakes and to support them to learn how to clear up the mess”
Here’s my take on the Double Take story: If the baalas simchah was funding her family’s stay, then she “owned” them. They had no right to snub her at her own simchah. If their kids weren’t able to handle the simchah schedule, then they should have been left at home.
If these relatives wanted to create a true family vacation, they should have bankrolled it, extended the time overseas after the simchah, and arranged it themselves. They also should have shown up to most if not all of the simchah events as a matter of pure courtesy and derech eretz. And they should have looked at Eretz Yisrael with an ayin tovah instead of stressing about “speckled tiled floors, wardrobes with chipped wood, and some missing door handles (gasp!).”
To be a good guest, there are several things to be mindful of.
The host’s money: If a host is spending money to have you in any capacity, don’t throw her money in the garbage. This is doubly true when she is making a simchah. I was enraged by the needless waste that this poor baalas simchah endured.
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