Trauma leaves devestating marks even if you can’t see a thing
My son is in kindergarten. He is a sensitive little boy — very sweet and innocent. Unfortunately he does not know how to be aggressive when he needs to be. As a result he has been an easy victim for the rougher boys in his class. I recently learned — when he started refusing to go to school in the morning — that he has been assaulted by his classmates many times in the bathroom during recess breaks. Of course I immediately spoke to the teacher and baruch Hashem the matter was attended to promptly and professionally.
I know that this won’t be happening again. However someone suggested that I take my son to a psychologist for some “preventative” treatment. Is that really necessary? Once I assured him that he is safe he started going back to school. He looks fine. The teacher told me everything is normal and I should just forget it — he’s already over it. She even suggested that stirring things up by talking about it at this point might make things worse. Is she right?
Forty Year Old Pain
Someone from my elementary school days decided to organize a 40-year school reunion for my grade. At the time of the reunion we women were already in our 50s (except for me who had magically stayed 35 during that 20 year period….). At the reunion I met a kindergarten classmate whom I had not seen for four decades. Immediately after greeting me she asked “Do you remember what that awful (kindergarten) teacher used to do to that little boy David? Do you remember how she’d spank him in front of the class every time he wet his pants and how she’d say he was a baby who needed diapers? I have never gotten over that!”
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