Nurture your marriage and it will nurture you
E xcited to be married Miriam threw herself into her wifely role making delicious fancy meals for Dovid applying fresh makeup before his return home every evening showing interest in every detail of his day and working hard to build and maintain connection and affection.
“I’m not sure when things first started to fall apart ” Dovid says. “We both relaxed a bit too much a few months after we got married. But the real crisis was after our baby was born. There was suddenly so much to do. We were both exhausted and busy and the baby’s needs seemed endless. We were sleep deprived and irritable so we stopped being careful with our words and actions. Everything became very tense and intense.
“‘Dovid get the baby his bottle. Dovid can you change his diaper please. Dovid can you do a better job of washing the pots and pans — you’re leaving bits of food all over them.’
“All our communication degenerated to a bunch of instructions and complaints. I felt neglected. I started snapping back at her. ‘No you do it — I’ve got to go out now.’
