Life

Some years ago I read an article about a fellow named “Seymour” who moved in with distant relatives and became so disruptive the family was eventually obliged to kick him out. Seymour was always around disrupting conversations pushing his opinions spreading his non-religious ideas to both parents and kids. But as bad an influence as he was there was something compelling about the entertaining vivid way he took over family conversations. It took a long time for the family to get wise to the damage he was inflicting and make the difficult decision to put him out on the sidewalk.

Seymour of course was a clever pun on “See More” and the author was talking about television. But television is yesterday’s medium. Today we are flooded with technologies potentially even more insidious: computers cell phones and smart phones iPods and iPads.

Technologies are created to serve us. The problem is that for many of us the slave has become the master. “It used to be” says Rabbi Zecharia Wallerstein founder and director of Ohr Naava Women’s Torah Center “that when a family took a trip they’d get in the car and say ‘Is everybody here? Did everybody put on their seat belt?’ Today the first question they ask is ‘Do I have my cell?’ ”

A typical addict is so wrapped up in getting his “fix” that family and other responsibilities dissolve into tangential concerns and technology addicts are no different. “I took my family to an amusement park last Chol HaMoed” Rabbi Wallerstein says “and everywhere I looked parents were on their cell phones. None of them were working — this was supposed to be a family vacation day — but the parents were busy on their cell phones!