When a child’s marriage dissolves, parents instinctively want to help. How can they be strong for their child when they themselves are reeling from pain? Mothers and experts share hard-earned wisdom
When a child’s marriage is on the rocks, how should the parents proceed? Should they step in to help — or step back? When and how much should they get involved?
It’s generally accepted wisdom that parents shouldn’t meddle in their children’s married lives, lest it create discord between the young couple. But Dr. Respler and Suri advocate for early intervention if there’s a real problem — “the earlier, the better,” says Suri.
“Every situation is different,” Dr. Respler says, “but there are some difficult marriages that can be saved. Even when it isn’t great, if it isn’t a crazy situation, try to make it work. It’s still a more stable family structure than a divorce.”
A divorce rarely happens suddenly, and when a marriage is floundering, parents often notice first. “If you see your child struggling, and there are additional pressures, try to help,” says Dr. Respler. “See if you can help with finances, offer babysitting, or send over supper.”
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