Why does someone who has a poor self-image have such a hard time making up his mind?
When he arrived for his appointment, Rabbi Baum, a middle-aged mesivta rebbi, got straight to the point. “My wife is terribly indecisive. And it’s beginning to drive me crazy. I always feel like shouting, ‘Just make up your mind, already,’ but I somehow manage to control myself.
“Let me give you a couple of examples. Recently, we were invited to a bar mitzvah. The invitation arrived two weeks before the simchah. For the next two weeks, I kept asking her if she would be coming with me. But she kept saying that she wasn’t sure.
“Then, the day before the bar mitzvah, she still had a difficult time deciding one way or the other. Finally, later that night, she asked me to call the baalei simchah and tell them that we would both be attending.
“One more example should suffice. This summer we wanted to rent a bungalow for the month of August. After an exhaustive search, we finally found one that was reasonably priced and suitable for our needs. We even went up to the country to check it out. When my wife couldn’t decide whether or not we should take it, the owner said he’d be willing to hold it for us for one week.
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