With so many strikes against him, how would my son find his bashert?
Deep down, I understood that Hashem runs the world. He is mezaveg zivugim, and I don’t need to take societal pressure too seriously. The hopeful voice and the fearful voice conversed endlessly in my head during the two decades between the birth of my oldest son and the day we began to actively look for his shidduch.
But I’m getting ahead of myself.
Even when he was very little, I’d daven that Yosef marry young, marry once, marry well, and build a beautiful family with a wife he’d enjoy growing old with.
Not long after his bar mitzvah, I told him, “Yosef, you know I love you dearly, and give you what I can. But the most important things in life are not things I can buy or give you. Learn Torah well, invest in your learning, build your middos, and make a good name for yourself.
“The time will come when you’re ready to build a home. People look for money, yichus, and Torah. Your shidduch will come in the zechus of your Torah, as I don’t have much to offer in the other realms.”
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