On Monday the day after the wedding Shainy came to see me at work. She was crying.
I wasn’t sure if I was allowed to speak to her. Rabbanit Chana always tell us that our group is special limited only to women who follow all of our practices. No one’s forced to comply but if someone doesn’t want to keep the rules she can’t remain part of our kehillah. She couldn’t come to our Shalosh Seudos gatherings or to our meetings and we couldn’t socialize with her or help her in any way.
“My parents’ rav said you can’t break up a marriage over a redid. And yesterday my parents took me to Rav Godlevitz the posek ” Shainy whispered nervously. “He agreed with my husband and he told me that an ishah kesheirah does her husband’s will. That I have to stop wearing my redid.”
I knew Shainy had been through a lot in the past few months ever since her husband had given her the ultimatum and it showed in the stress lines on her face. We’d been trying to give her all the chizuk we could.
