Shidduchim During Lockdown

Ineed some help figuring out this shidduchim-during-lockdown thing. My daughter was redt to someone a few weeks before Pesach and both sides mutually agreed to adopt a wait-and-see approach. Well, we’ve waited, and we’ve seen that there aren’t any drastic changes on the horizon. The boy’s side said they’d like a decision. They have no problem with us saying no at this time, and they’re also okay with the couple starting on Zoom. They’d just like to be able to move on.

I get that. I’m just unsure what to do. My daughter has a hard time opening up to new people. She’s fine with chitchat, but then she gets stuck. I’m afraid Zoom won’t give her a chance to show her true self. And even if they start on Zoom, how long do we continue that if things go well?

Do we wait until this is all over (whenever that is) to give her the optimal circumstances and say if it’s bashert, he’ll still be around? Or do we go with second best and say what’s meant to be will be and Zoom can’t change that?

Unsure

Dear Unsure,

What can I say? These questions are beyond my pay grade. Nothing highlights the need for daas Torah like these types of situations. I can’t tell you what to do. (I hope I don’t ever actually tell anyone what to do.)